Mallow Camera Club; Grade 1. Third Place. Ann O’ Mara.
“The heart that has truly loved never forgets”
This is the last photo of my only sister. She was Nora Christina Ahern, called Ina at home and Chrissy in school.
This photo was taken in Mallow Hospital. She had put on the jumper over her nightdress so she would look “dressed”.
She is not smiling because it is a passport photo. Indeed she has little reason to smile anyway because she is very ill.
It is March 1964. She is 15 years old. A month later on April 10th she passed away. She never got to Lourdes so the passport was never needed after all.
In this photo, Ina is wearing a yellow jumper she knitted herself. Because she was 15 she was too old for the children’s ward so she was in a ward with all the old women. They were lovely to her and she became one of them. Their pursuits became her pursuits. She knit with their encouragement and she joined in the exchange of patterns. She read Ireland’s Own and discussed the latest adventures of Kitty the Hare. Best of all she prayed with them. Every evening the women of the ward took out their rosary beads and said the family rosary. Ina, who, before her illness, had been a bit of a tearaway, fell into line with her new friends. She took consolation and support from the communal prayers. She knew that many of the older ladies were praying for a peaceful death for themselves and for each other. They desperately wanted their youngest patient to get better.
I know now what I didn’t know then. Ina was never going to get better. She was in the departure lounge too.
I think of my sister often, especially at this time of her anniversary. She is part of everything I do. Today she is part of my blog.
Through the years;
Aged 4 and 5
Aged 13 and 14 on our Confirmation day
Another local phrase remembered
Mary, I like to phrase ‘out beside it.’ In South Meath, we say, ‘You’re out by the side of it’ when we point out to someone that they are wrong or mistaken about something. One memorable instance of this was when a school-mate of mine, having had a few clips about the ear from the Master, retorted: ‘If you think you can ‘bate’ me like that, you are out by the side of it!’ Well, he would have been if it had happened these days… Nicholas L.
Thank you for the comments. Much appreciated
Marion with an O
Mary I'm in floods of tears reading about Chrissy. Like you, I will never forget her. She was my best friend and the sister I never had. I hve no photo of her, only the one in my heart. Seeing her fifteen year old self is exactly as i remember her bt I do hve a memory of her when I visited her at home about a week before she died. She really cheered up when she saw me and your lovely late mother made tea and Thompson's iced lemon buns. I never knew she was dying. I never knew it wld b the last time I'd see her. There was no counselling, no way of grieving for my friend. It was a huge loss in my life too Mary. I would love a copy of that photograph as I lost all mine. She was beautiful, intelligent and such fun to be around. I will never forget her. Thanks Mary, Marion
Marion, you have always been loyal to Chrissy's memory. Your continued love brings great consolation with it.
I too wish we had bereavement counselling in 1964.
I remember Christina RIP well.